Doing things differently since 1984

About ABtwixt

The short version: I am a mother of two and party of one.  Having lived in 17 cities, 5 states, 2 countries, and 3 social classes, I sometimes make the mistake of thinking myself to be wise…. don’t be fooled.

The long version: Do you ever feel like you’re the only one who sees things a certain way?  You probably do….  I feel that way constantly.  Some call it insightful, others call it irritating.  It’s been that way my whole life.  When everyone else in middle school was trying their hardest to fit in, I was wearing nothing but long skirts just to prove I was no slave to expectations.  When a teacher assigned an essay, I’d write it in fiction form.  When people get mad, I get curious.  When everyone else is talking about “what” something is, I’m wondering “why”.  That’s the basis of this blog.

I have a Masters degree in history, and though this doesn’t help me get gainful employment, it does influence my writing.  Anyone can look at one guy’s opinion in 2014 against another guy’s opinion in 2014 and think they’re getting some interesting perspective…. but if you throw in some opinions and facts from 1914, 1514, 114, and 2014 BC, the world opens up majestically.

I don’t automatically discount the perspective, opinion, or way of life of anyone, whether in this century or another.  I usually keep it positive, value the simple things in life, and I believe most people mean well.  I definitely believe there is Truth and Fiction, but I think 99.9999% of the world’s population (including me!) strikes somewhere in the middle.  So if you’re a person, then congratulations — you are most welcome to this site!!

Find Out More:

I don’t write about my personal life too often on this blog, mostly because I don’t think it’s really all that interesting.  But when I do I put it in the autobiographical section.

If you want a shortlist of what I consider to be my most defining posts, try these:

Then again, every once in a while I manage to pick up a little dose of humor, and sometimes I actually like that more.


I try to mention frequently that I don’t claim to have all the answers.  I often end up disagreeing with myself.  You have my sincerest apologies if I offended you, bored you, or disappointed you.  I welcome constructive feedback.


I like using pictures in my posts.  I think it’s distracting to try and credit them in a caption beneath, but if you click on a picture, it takes you to the URL where I found it.  If it doesn’t take you to a URL, then I got it from my fully licensed version of Microsoft Office.

22 comments on “About ABtwixt

  1. Philip
    March 5, 2012

    Thanks for adding your two cents to my post! Much appreciated. 🙂

  2. lbtk
    April 6, 2012

    I have given you The Versatile Blogger Award. I love what you do and want you to know that your words make a difference in my life. Check out your award at http://lbtk.wordpress.com/2012/04/06/thank-you-for-the-versatile-blogger-award/

  3. Randel
    April 11, 2012

    Thank you for the favor of nominating my site for the Versatile Blogger Award. I did not know how it worked, and am thankful you sent one my way. I really have only 6-7 blog sites I follow, and your is on my top list, and I am pretty picky about how I use my time. You write very well and on good subjects.

    • abtwixt
      April 12, 2012

      Thank you very much, and you deserve that award!! I feel honored to have the random outpourings of my mind be appreciated 🙂

  4. Randel
    April 18, 2012

    Your Blogroll is not properly linked to your new web site. Make sure you check the URL you have for the site in your blogroll when in the Widgets.

    • abtwixt
      April 19, 2012

      Thank you very much for the heads up! This issue has now been fixed 🙂

  5. Randel
    May 21, 2012

    Thank you for the very kind comment you left on my site. Your insight has my mind spinning on why folks turn out negativity or positiveness when they write. Your posting is cementing in my mind that being an economist corrodes my thoughts and makes me more negative or depressing. Thank you for making me think about this, and work on getting balance back.

    • abtwixt
      May 22, 2012

      The comment was meant in a generally lighthearted fashion, though in truthfulness nonetheless. I am always glad when anything I say makes another person think, and am flattered that you took the comment so deeply to heart! Economics is fascinating for sure, but I can imagine that gazing deeply into how the elusive and greed-driven system works can be a bit like seeing the belly of the Beast. I hope you find the balance!

  6. joyannaadams
    June 8, 2012

    Only God is wise, the rest of us are lily ponds! But God is in you..so I won’t be fooled into thinking that you are NOT. LOL!

    • abtwixt
      June 9, 2012

      Haha, great way of looking at it! 🙂

  7. dinkerson
    August 9, 2012

    Well, then you must be quite excellent at faking this wisdom stuff. You coulda fooled me. 🙂

    • abtwixt
      August 9, 2012

      LOL, and then God makes fools of us all 😉 Thanks for reading!!

  8. Randel
    April 3, 2013

    So from all those cities and countries, which one do you count as your “home base?” Some people say it is where you graduated from in high school. By that standard, I am a cheesehead from Wisconsin.

    • abtwixt
      April 4, 2013

      I would count where I am “from” as Atlanta, which I suppose is indeed where I graduated high school…. so I will not poke any holes in your theory, cheesehead 😉

  9. grammatteus
    September 29, 2014

    See the world from a different perspective? Ditto
    Master’s degree? Ditto (in Linguistics), and ditto on the ‘usefulness’ of that in today’s society!
    Like hearing other points of view? Ditto

    I always see myself as a ‘middle man’ since I often understand BOTH sides of a debate and find myself balanced precariously on that fence that everybody else finds way too uncomfortable. It’s not comfortable for me either, but it’s MY perch! When someone says to me that I’m weird, I thank them! My qualifications in Linguistics give me insight into more of how and why people say the things they do (and ultimately believe the things they do since language is just the outpouring of our inner language). My qualifications in theology also help me to see the varying points of view within a wide canon of doctrinal opinions.

    May I dare to ask if you’ve ever been diagnosed (even unofficially) as somewhere on the autistic scale? I have theories on the place of autistic people in society, as outsiders who can see things others cannot. When you really understand what the Old Testament prophets were saying and doing…. boy, did they transcend the ‘norm’!

    • abtwixt
      September 29, 2014

      One of my favo[u]rite authors of one of my favo[u]rite books – J.R.R. Tolkien and Lord of the Rings, respectively – was also a linguist, so I feel hono[u]red that you have come to visit my humble little blog!

      I am terribly curious — does your cross-study of linguistics and religion lead you to any interesting conclusions about how God is approached and thought of differently in different parts of the world?

      It is interesting you bring up Autism-Spectrum… I do not think I quite fit, at least from what I have read about it, but several different people now have suggested my daughter (who is 4) may. For myself, if ‘noticing little things no one else does, and not noticing big things everyone else does’ has a catchier or more convenient name, that is pretty much what I am 🙂

      • grammatteus
        October 16, 2014

        Lord of the Rings is just epic! Tolkien and CS Lewis were close friends. I loved the Narnia Chronicles as a teenager, and Lewis’s Christian apologetics shaped my early faith in profound ways. The allegories with faith within his Narnia stories are so subtle yet so alive too!

        It was through diagnosis of my kids’ ADD that I read about that and became absolutely convinced I had been an ADDer all my life. Later, they were both diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome (now just categorised as ASD-NOS: Autism Spectrum Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified), and the leaders of a volunteer group they joined diagnosed both me and my wife as having it too. I was very skeptical about that since we all have these ‘stereotypes’ that I thought I didn’t fit, but we’ve come to realise that there are many personality types within the Autistic Spectrum, and I’m at the crossover point where I’m just admitting to myself slowly that I AM one. ADD and other ‘comorbids’ (awful word, I know) often go hand-in-hand with the spectrum.

        Your daughter having it may be something to consider. There are clear genetic linkages. Your blogging comes across to me in that way. A real problem is that it is always viewed as a disability. For me it’s a ‘different ability’ and it’s just the ‘norms’ who think of us as misfits and who want to ‘cure’ us of our ‘problems’ – we have so much insight to give things that many do not see. Most (though not all) autistics are introverts, and we live in a world where extroverts get all the listeners, by their ‘loud’ nature of course. I’m currently reading a book by Susan Cain: Quiet – The power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking. As a corporate lawyer, she points to all the introverts in banking that forewarned of the coming crash in 2008 but were not listened to, since the extroverts taking all the risks were making more money and quickly.

        For me, autism is about ‘social intelligence’ in that we may be very ‘book smart’ but dumbasses when it comes to the behaviours everybody else just knows they must do. My daughter (an extrovert) would walk into a room of teenagers, go up to a group and just say “Hi, I’m Charis. What’s your name?” and just NOT see the looks of ‘what a weirdo!’ on their faces. I’ve managed some REAL social faux pas myself! So seeing the small things but not the big you mention…. the evidence is mounting!

        BEST description I found was ‘hunter in a farmer’s world’ – just think of all the skills needed for hunting, and for farming. Place a skilled hunter into a farmer’s world and you’ll find them… disorganised, bored, impatient, too spontaneous, looking for a new experience and a thrill… farming is just so longwinded and drawn out, and BORING. And multi-tasking!? Forget that, let’s just go off on a hunt! We’ve been left behind by a society that doesn’t seem to wish to live for the moment. Yet Jesus even told us to not worry about tomorrow!

        Sorry this was so long. Once I get started…

        • abtwixt
          October 16, 2014

          Hunter in a Farmer’s world… love it. I have often wondered how many people are out there with amazing talents for doing something that we just simply don’t have available as a “thing”. For instance, I tend to do very well at written tests… it gives me an unfair advantage in our current society, but how would that talent have manifested itself in the Middle Ages? I’m terrible at cooking, sewing, gardening, and keeping my female mouth shut — I could very well have been branded a Medieval dumbass.

          As for Aspergers… who knows? It’s an interesting thought. It could very well be another example of how we tend to view human genetics as binary — on or off, you have it or you don’t — rather than the 3-dimensional spectrum that it more often tends to be. Perhaps we all are on the ASD scale, just most of us pretty far from the so-far recognized end of it.

      • grammatteus
        October 16, 2014

        AS to my dual fields of training… I’ll keep this short, since I could write about it forever (I AM writing a book). I don’t buy into any of this ‘many ways to God’ belief – Christ is enough for me, and the ONLY way to God, but yes, there is SO much cultural baggage attached to our modern Christian religion that we need to pare away the unnecessary language of our Western culture to make it more appealing to other cultures AND other thinkers. For instance, I find relatively few autistics within my evangelical circles!

        Christ is NOT a western thinker, nor are his teachings anywhere NEAR the values we are raised with. For me he is non-cultural and cross-cultural too. My blog is about challenging such cultural ideas, and my book shall be about removing all the baggage that keeps us from finding contentment in him.

        Though I admit I am going through a very painful rethinking of many of the things I took for granted as true that my evangelical culture gave me. None of us are totally immune to peer thinking!

        • abtwixt
          October 16, 2014

          Your book sounds very interesting! Personally, I neither advocate for nor against the ‘many paths to God’ approach. I am quite certain of God, but I do not know how wide the path is that leads to Him. I do know that many claim to know how wide it is, and magically they tend to place themselves squarely in the middle of its specifications. Aggregately, if all of these people are right, the path is very wide indeed.

          Of course, if everyone is right, then everyone is wrong as well, because they exclude others. So basically, either some people must be wrong (but who, exactly?), or everyone must be wrong. I too grew up in an evangelical environment, and have also been doing a lot of rethinking. So far my best conclusion is that any conclusion I could possibly come up with will be too small-minded.

          Best of luck in your writing!

          • grammatteus
            October 17, 2014

            Love your circular thinking there! Or maybe it’s more oval-shape? Irony upon irony, I was just barred this morning from a Facebook page ‘The Christian Left’ – which is set up to challenge mainstream Christian thought – for challenging a thought they put up! Such inability to debate is everywhere!

            • abtwixt
              October 17, 2014

              We all too easily accept those who agree with us, and too easily dismiss those who don’t.

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